Obstacles to change. What stops you from achieving your goal? Part 2.

Blocks to Сhange. What obstacles do you need to consider when setting a goals?

Last week we started discussing very important topic – obstacles to change and went through some of them – possible goals conflict, lack of motivation, ambivalence and laps. Why is it important to recognise what block may impede your progress and obstacle that prevent your personal growth? When a goal is set hopefully you feel committed to get into action and raring to go. You have a clear vision and feel super determined. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and sometimes, even though we have a very clear and specific goal, we still feel there’s something missing or perhaps that something is just not right. Sounds familiar?

Here are other blocks why we don’t achieve what we want, despite our best intentions and efforts.


Good old procrastination. To procrastinate is to put things off till tomorrow or next Monday even though your better judgement tells you have to do it today. By the way, how are your New Year’s resolutions doing?

According to the first ever in-depth report examining why and how we procrastinate, Britons spend nearly four hours every day delaying tasks they know they should be doing. The study, published by the lending company RateSetter  and based on a YouGov survey of 2,000 adults, revealed that we spend, on average, 218 minutes procrastinating every day, which amounts to 55 days of lost time each year.

Here’s a cheeky 3 step model you can adapt to help you get out of procrastination circle:

  1. Write down what you need / want / have to do that you have been putting off.
  2. Write down the first step or few steps you will make to do what you need / want / have to do.
  3. Write down what obstacles you may come across with and what will you do about it.

​The one and only solution to tackle procrastination is action. You just have to do it. Full stop.

Resource depletion.

You are too tired, stressed or overwhelmed. Or perhaps you have negative and highly demotivating self-talk (‘I’m a total loser’/ ‘It’s not going to work for me so why even bother’), lack of support or time both socially and work wise, resources are stretched, lack of certain skills, etc.

​Possible solutions may include reviewing your time management, using relaxation technique such as Benson Relaxation, meditation, asking for help and support, practicing being kind to yourself to counteract negative self-talk, improving your skills via training, mentoring or coaching, etc.

Inadequate tracking.

Lack of feedback, communication or evidence. You feel like you are kept in the dark or not being listened to. This is especially relevant for work related goals. Possible solutions may include asking for feedback or evidence support, and making sure your goal is measurable so you can track success rate  (i.e. go through your KPIs with your boss and write them down, this way you are both on the same page). Transparency is key and lack of it causes communication breakdown.

Inner Critic.

Last but not the least. You ‘Inner Critic’ is on full blast telling you ‘You are going to fail again so there is no point to waste your time again. Everyone would think you are a big loser. Blah-blah-blah.’

Rule number one – you hold the volume button. Rule number two – turn you ‘Inner Critic’ right down and start challenging those self-doubting beliefs, that’s rule number three. Limits exist only in your head. No one can upset you without your consent.

Have you ever noticed that if you think you’ll have a bad day in the morning, the whole day goes wrong? We tend to get what we focus on. If you fear failure or stress about stress before there’s even any stress to stress about, you focus all your attention on failure or stress and that’s exactly what you will get. So don’t get surprised afterwards.

Use TIC / TOC technique that is used on cognitive coaching. Your negative self-talk is like this trojan horse virus that is hard to stop and it’s highly destructive. TIC/TOC is an antivirus for your brain so keep it switched on 24/7. Here’s how it works:

  1. TIC stand for ‘task interfering cognition’ – your self-nagging & negative thoughts related to a particular task. Write them all down in one column.

​2. TOC stands for ‘task oriented cognition’ – helpful, rational and functional thoughts that you will develop to challenge your TICs.

​3. You should challenge your TICs via 4 ways that are most effective:

* Reality – Is it real? Where is the evidence that everyone will think I am a looser?

* Logic – Is it logical? Even if I failed once at a task, how does it logically make me a total loser? Happens to the best of us.

* Pragmatism – Is it helpful? OK, even if I am right, how does it help me to achieve my goal?

* Third party perspective – If I was a fly on the wall and witnessed the whole process, would I agree with me? What would I say to my best friend? Am I ready to take my own advice?

  1. Now challenge your TICs and write down helpful, rational, realistic TOCs in the column next to it.
  2. Keep on practicing it whether in writing or just in your head. It is very powerful stuff.

​If you still think your self-nagging is overwhelming and you just can’t deal with it yourself, look for help. Cognitive behavioural coaching would be a very powerful and helpful option to consider here.

If you said yes to any of the above, this can be your block to change. Pause and think, what is the first step you can do now to overcome this challenge and move closer to your goal?

If you have any questions, please feel free to email me direct – anastasia@execsalescoachng.com


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Obstacles to change. What stops you from achieving your goal? Part 1.

Blocks to Сhange. What obstacles do you need to consider when setting a goals?

When a goal is set hopefully you feel committed to get into action and raring to go. You have a clear vision and feel super determined. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and sometimes, even though we have a very clear and specific goal, we still feel there’s something missing or perhaps that something is just not right. Sounds familiar?

​There are some blocks why we don’t achieve what we want, despite our best intentions and efforts:

  1. Possible Goal Conflict.

A goal conflict is the existence of two or more competing goals leading to the cause of conflict in your mindset. It occurs when two or more motives block each other. That can cause great strain on our emotional and physical well-being. For example, your goal is to lose 1 stone in 8 weeks yet you don’t want to cancel Friday night’s takeaway routine with your friends. What’s the end result here? Good case scenario – workable compromise. Bad case scenario – frustration, no weight loss and overall disappointment.

​Goal conflict can also occur in the following situations:

* The goal is not congruent with who you are and your values, morals and principles. It’s not in sync with you. Ask yourself – How does this goal sit with me? Am I being authentic?

* The goal might not be yours and has been imposed on you. You will not internalise someone else’s goal and resist it until you find a working compromise on it that would sit well with you.

* The goal might interfere with another goal you wish to attain. Have your cake and eat it scenario.

* Goal is not SMART. Successful goal = specific & explicit goal with a clear time frame.

* Your self-efficacy is low. In other words, you don’t believe you have the right skills or resources to do it. That affect self-esteem too. If fact, it kills it.

* You are simply not ready to change. You have to be honest with yourself here. Do you really want to do? It can be extremely difficult but it is worth it.

  1. Lack of Motivation.

​Self-motivation is intrinsic, which means it is within you. Change always starts from within. Self-motivation is the ability to energise, direct and sustain your goal-related behaviour whether or not you have the support and encouragement of friends, family or your boss.

​Lasting and meaningful change can only occur when you are intrinsically motivated. Motivation to change is being ready, willing and able.

Possible solutions may include looking for exceptions to see when your self-motivation was high and see what other resource were available and helpful or what you were doing differently. Ask yourself the following two questions:

* What do I do that stops me from achieving my goal?

* What do I need to do in order to achieve my goal?

You can also use motivation imagery (developed by Professor Stephen Palmer and Michael Neenan), that is handy if you are ambivalent or reluctant about addressing problems, challenges or issues in your life. It consists of two parts – inaction and action. Powerful stuff, trust me. Here are the steps:

  1. Visualise the rest of your life not having undertaken the changes that you would like and not achieving your desires goal. Imagine the effect upon yourself and perhaps on significant others too, for the rest of your life until the day you die if you do absolutely nothing. Think of your regrets too. Imagine the effect year by year.
  2. Now imagine yourself undertaking what you want to do and see how your future unfolds without this particular problem after having worked hard to deal with it.
  3. Now consider how you are going to put action step into practice.

​Practice this technique every time you feel demotivated until you feel like you are back on track.

​If you still feel you are not getting anywhere and your motivation levels are low, consider hiring a life coach who is trained to perform Motivational Interviewing and also uses cognitive techniques too.

  1. Ambivalence.

Old keys won’t open new doors. When you set a goal for yourself, that usually means you want to achieve something new by changing or optimising old ways. Ambivalence is seen as a natural part of the change process and resistance is the heart of change. Change happens in a cycle. If you are ambivalent about making the first step towards achieving your goal and also showing some resistance (e.g. ‘Why me?’/‘Why should I even bother?’ scenario), you can assess at what stage of the change cycle you are right now. See diagram.

  1. Lapse and Relapse.

Preventing and managing lapse or relapse is an important part of setting a goal especially health & well-being related and if you have failed to achieve it before. Lapse is a small, temporary slip in goal achievement efforts, while a relapse is a return to previous habits that is associated with blocking goal achievements. In other words, a lapse is a single slip or set back while a relapse is a series of backward steps or set backs away from the goal. Everyone has lapses – small slips, moments or brief periods of time when you return to an old habit. Relapse is often referred to as the unofficial sixth stage of the change cycle model described above.

As a rule, when you experience relapse you are likely to have feelings of disappointment, failure and extreme frustration. This is where a lot of negative self-talk and self-downing beliefs would stroll in to make matters worse and this in turn will significantly bring motivation down.

cycle of change

When you relapse, you will go back to one of the following three stages – contemplation, planning/decision or action. Depending where you land after a relapse would ultimately determine what you should do. Planning/decision and action stages are where usually most of the barriers and blocks to change would crop up too. Be mindful of that.

In order to deal with lapses most effectively, it is important to be prepared for them. Outline the chain of events or triggers that can lead to relapse so you can see if there is clear pattern, then develop and highlight coping strategies or action plan for keeping a lapse from progressing to relapse.

In my next post I’ll continue this subject and look into other block to change such as procrastination, perfectionism, resource depletion and inner critic.

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Adaptive Perfectionism: Strive for Excellence .

Do you find yourself constantly chasing perfection? Do you have an exceptionally high standards and unrealistic demands to yourself and others? If this sounds familiar, welcome to the club of perfectionists.

Perfectionism refers to self-defeating thoughts and behaviours associated with high and unrealistic goals. Perfectionism is often mistakenly seen as desirable or even necessary for success. However, recent studies have shown that perfectionist attitudes actually interfere with success. The desire to be perfect can deny you a sense of satisfaction and cause you to achieve far less than people with more realistic goals.

You can recognise perfectionists by the following common characteristics:

  • They feel like whatever they accomplish is never quite good enough
  • they put off handing in projects, waiting to get them just perfect polishing it over and over again
  • They feel like they must give more than 100 per cent on everything they do or else they will be mediocre or even a failure. And expect the same from other.

What is the cause of perfectionism?

Maladaptive perfectionism can be described as refusal to accept any standard short of perfection. Perfectionist people are those who have high standards beyond reach or reason to sustain and who strain compulsively and relentlessly towards impossible goals and measure their own self-worth based entirely on their accomplishments and capabilities.  Low self-esteem is also quite often accompanied by perfectionist tendencies which in turn can set up a cycle of avoidance, procrastination and low frustration tolerance.

Perfectionism is often associated with the following challenges:

  • Fear of failure. Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value.
  • Fear of making mistakes. Perfectionists often equate mistakes with failure and total disaster. As a rule perfectionists miss opportunities to learn, grow and enjoy the process as they are focusing on avoiding mistakes too much.
  • Fear of disapproval. If they let others see their flaws, perfectionists often fear that they will no longer be accepted. Trying to be perfect is a way of trying to protect themselves from criticism, rejection, and disapproval.
  • All-or-nothing thinking or black or white thinking. Perfectionists frequently believe that they are worthless if their accomplishments are not perfect. It either has to be perfect or why bother at all?! Perfectionists struggle a lot to see situations in perspective. For example, a straight ‘A’ student who receives a ‘B’ might believe, “I am a total failure and it’s a total disaster”.
  • Over-emphasis on ‘should’, ‘must’ and ‘ought’. Perfectionists often live with an endless list of rigid rules for what they must accomplish. With the emphasis on how everything has to be done, perfectionists rarely listen to what they really feel like doing.
  • Never good enough. Never. Perfectionists tend to see others as achieving success with a minimum of effort, few errors, little emotional stress, and maximum self-confidence. At the same time, perfectionists view their own efforts as unending and forever inadequate.

Sounds exhausting and stressful, isn’t it? What’s the solution then? Turn it into an adaptive perfectionism and strive for excellence instead of chasing perfection.


Adaptive perfectionism.

It is better to celebrate your realistic goals than fail to attain perfection.

Striving for excellence is a form of adaptive perfectionism which is a more helpful and rational way. Adaptive perfectionists strive for goals that are attainable. Adaptive or normal perfectionists set high standards for themselves yet feel free to be less precise as the situation permits so they show more flexibility. Adaptive perfectionists as a rule feel good about their accomplishments but allow themselves the flexibility to make and accept minor mistakes.

Some of the characteristics of adaptive perfectionism can be as follows:

  • Able to experience satisfaction or pleasure
  • Focus on doing things right rather than perfect
  • Timely completion of tasks
  • Standards modified in accordance with the situation
  • Relaxed but careful attitude
  • Motivation to achieve positive feedback and/or rewards
  • Desire to excel rather than be perfect
  • Achievable standards
  • Reasonable match between attainable performance and standards
  • Failure associated with disappointment and renewed efforts
  • Reasonable certainty about actions
  • High standards are match too the person’s limitations and strengths
  • Sense of self-worth independent of performance
  • Balanced thinking: good enough

There is an antidote to perfectionism that a coach can outline to a coachee in order to shift unhelpful patterns onto more helpful and adaptive ones such as:

  • Do not tie up your personal worth to accomplishment.
  • Strive to do your best instead of obsessing yourself with being the best.
  • Aim to become a better performer rather than try to prove yourself a better person.
  • No matter how successful you are, you remain a fallible and imperfect human being – develop greater self-acceptance.
  • See failures and setbacks as opportunities for learning, not self-condemnation.

To conclude, adaptive perfectionism is characterised as a normal, healthy type of perfectionism as it leads to satisfaction from achievements made from intense effort but tolerating the imperfections without resorting to the harsh self-criticism that characterises maladaptive perfectionism. A much better and productive way forward, don’t you agree?



Melissa Jackson 2004 Why perfect is not always best http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3815479.stm

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Palmer, S. and Williams, H., (2012), Struggles with low self-esteem: Teaching self-acceptance in Neenan, M. and Palmer, S., (2012), Cognitive Behavioural Coaching in Practice. An Evidence Based Approach, East Sussex: Routledge

Perfectionism: does it harm performance more than it helps?

Perfectionism can be described as the uncompromising pursuit of exceptionally high standards. In other words, perfectionism can also be described as refusal to accept any standard short of perfection. Perfectionist people are those who have high standards beyond reach or reason to sustain and who strain compulsively and relentlessly towards impossible goals and measure their own self-worth based entirely on their accomplishments and capabilities.

There are 3 different type of perfectionism:

  1. Self-oriented perfectionism – strict high personal standards, rigid evaluations of self, fear of failure, etc.
  2. Other-oriented perfectionism – setting unrealistic and high standards for others.
  3. Socially prescribed perfectionism or what we think others might expect of us – perceived external pressure to be perfect.

There is a difference between striving for excellence and demanding perfection.

What makes perfectionism so toxic is that while those in its pursuit desire success, they are most focused on avoiding failure, so there is a negative orientation goin on.

Perfectionists have difficulty in recognizing when enough is enough as reasonable performance is never quite good enough. This is called maladaptive perfectionism. Maladaptive perfectionists are people who have an immense fear of criticism, concern about making mistakes, overemphasis on order and desire for complete admiration and they strive for personal superiority.

Striving for perfection has a lot of unhelpful characteristics or perils that can have an adverse effect on one’s performance, such as:

  • Excessively high standards
  • Not satisfied by success and continually striving for more
  • Fear of failure leading to rejection, criticism or disapproval
  • Emotional disturbance when standards not met
  • Inflexible and overgeneralised high standards
  • Overly self-critical and self-doubt
  • Procrastination
  • Fear of competition
  • All-or-nothing thinking such as ‘I have to do my job perfect otherwise I’m a total failure’
  • Intolerant of mistakes by self or others
  • Conditional self-acceptance
  • Not learning as focusing only on avoiding errors
  • Faulty definition of success
  • High levels of anxiety before, during and after a performance
  • Feel a fraud or phoneyism
  • Non-acceptable of fallibility

Most people who are successful set very high standards for themselves and they seem to be happy in their lives. However what turns life into agonising pursuit of perfection is the extent to which people strive to be perfect and are worried about mistakes. I think that fear of making mistakes and doubts about actions are absolute prerequisites for perfectionism. Perfectionists fear that if they make a mistake, it will lead to others thinking badly of them, criticisms or disapproval. The performance aspect is intrinsic to their view of themselves. Low self-esteem is also quite often accompanied by perfectionist tendencies as individuals place more and more demands on themselves and others in order to demonstrate and prove their worthiness and value. Low self-esteem can often set up a cycle of avoidance and procrastination especially amongst rigid perfectionists.

Overall, perfectionism harms performance more than it helps.

If you have any questions or wish to arrange a coaching session, please email me direct  – anastasia@execsalescoaching.com / 07852474343.



Rice, KG. and Preusser, KJ., (2002), The adaptive/maladaptive perfectionism scale, Measurement and Evaluation in Counselling and Development, Vol 34.4:210, [Online], Available: http://search.proquest.com/openview/bb8e76c6362136df09966437b4b55d97/1?pq-origsite=gscholar

Palmer, S. and Williams, H., (2012), Struggles with low self-esteem: Teaching self-acceptance in Neenan, M. and Palmer, S., (2012), Cognitive Behavioural Coaching in Practice. An Evidence Based Approach, East Sussex: Routledge.



Stressed Out? Learn how to relax. Benson Relaxation Response.

Benson relaxation response is of the most helpful way to turn off fight or flight response and bring the body back to pre-stress levels that I have ever tried. It is a physical state of deep relaxation which engages the parasympathetic nervous system.

This technique  Benson Relaxation Response was developed by Dr. Herbert Benson, professor, author, cardiologist, and founder of Harvard’s Mind/Body Medical Institute.  The response can be defined as your personal ability to encourage your body to release chemicals and brain signals that make your muscles and organs slow down and increase blood flow to the brain.  Dr. Benson described many scientific benefits of relaxation, explaining that regular practice of the Relaxation Response can be a very powerful and effective treatment for a wide range of stress-related disorders.

How was it developed? Benson once wrote in his book where he demystified meditation and proved its benefits, “We claim no innovation but simply a scientific validation of age-old wisdom”. People from the Transcendental Meditation (TM) movement, who felt they could reduce blood pressure using meditation, visited Harvard Medical School in 1968, asking to be studied. The school, which at the time was studying the relationship of monkeys’ behaviour and blood pressure, told them “No, thank you, not interested.” But when they persisted, Benson told them he would study them. That is how Benson Relaxation Response was developed.

Stress is a biological and psychological response experienced on encountering a threat or pressure that we feel we can’t to cope with.

Firstly, our body judges a situation and decides whether or not it is stressful or life threatening. This decision is made based on sensory input and processing (i.e. the things we see, feel or hear in the situation) and also based on past similar experiences. If the situation is judged as being stressful, the hypothalamus is activated that is a part of the brain in charge of the stress response. When a stress response is triggered, it sends signals to two other structures: the pituitary gland, and the adrenal medulla.  These short term responses are produced by The Fight or Flight Response.

One of the most valuable things we can do in life is to learn mindful relaxation – making an effort to spend some time every day quieting our wondering minds in order to create inner peace and better health.

When stress kicks in, our sympathetic system is activated that prepares the body to either fight or flight.  Once the ‘threat’ is over the parasympathetic branch takes control and brings the body back into a balanced state. The Relaxation Response is a helpful way to turn off fight or flight response and bring the body back to pre-stress levels. Dr. Benson describes the Relaxation Response as a physical state of deep relaxation which engages the other part of our nervous system—the parasympathetic nervous system.

Sometimes, it’s hard to switch off from ‘stressed out’ mode or we simply don’t know how. Benson Relaxation Response is a very powerful tool and if you use it regularly, you’ll see what difference can it make to you. I practice the breathing part quite frequently when I need to calm down or just as a mindful breathing exercise and I can always feel the benefits of it pretty much within 2-3 breaths. This is powerful!

The basic technique of concentrative meditation used to achieve significant levels of relaxation is essentially very simple. Four components are basic to all techniques of concentrative meditation: a quiet environment, a mental device, a passive attitude, and a comfortable position. Here’s how it works :

  1. Find a noise-free place where you won’t be disturbed. Sound, even background noise, may prevent the elicitation of the relaxation response. Select a convenient, suitable place, for example, a comfortable chair in a quiet room or you may prefer to lay down.
  2. Find a comfortable position and sit / lay down quietly.
  3. Close your eye.
  4. Relax your muscles in groups starting at your face and progress down to your toes.
  5. Focus on your breathing. Breathe naturally in through your nose and out through your mouth. Avoid letting your shoulders rise as you breathe.
  6. In your mind, say a number such as ‘one’ every time you breathe out.
  7. Continue for 5-20 minutes.
  8. Finish in your own time.

Remember not to worry about whether you are successful in achieving a deep level of relaxation–maintain a passive attitude and permit relaxation to occur at its own pace. When distracting thoughts occur, ignore them and continue to repeat the mantra as your breathe. The technique should be practiced once or twice daily, and not within two hours after any meal, since the digestive processes seem to interfere with the elicitation of the expected changes. With practice the relaxation response should come with little effort.

Below are some more tips for reducing cortisol levels every day and naturally calm yourself down:

  • Mindfulness – people who meditate daily for four months decreased the hormone by an average of 20%.
  • Music – music can have a calming effect on the brain.
  • Social connectivity – simply anticipating laughter is enough to reduce cortisol levels by nearly half.
  • Go to bed early.
  • Treat yourself for a massage
  • Eliminate caffeine – 200mg of caffeine increases blood cortisol levels by 30%.
  • Take anti-stress supplements such as vitamin B and minerals like magnesium, antioxidants like vitamin C or coenzyme Q10.
  • Use positive relaxation imagery
  • Switch off – have a relaxing bath, massage, read a book, etc.
  • Keep your blood sugar stable – try to avoid sugar in the diets and refined carbs. Eat frequent small meals balanced in protein and complex carbs.


Overall, implementation of targeted dietary and lifestyle approaches is an extremely powerful way to reduce stress, improve health and reduce the risk for illness and chronic disease.

If you have any questions regarding stress management or if you want to be coached on stress, please don’t hesitate to email me direct on hello@empoweredcoaching.pro.

Keep Calm & Breath!


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5 Keys to Effective Sales Coaching: How to Supercharge Your Sales Skills?

Benefits of Sales Coaching,
Sales Coaching,
Sales Skills,

effective sales coaching

You hear a lot about sales coaching these days but what exactly does it mean? What are the benefits of sales coaching that everyone seems to be raving about?

In this competitive world, team do what it takes to hit this sales targets and succeed but sometimes it’s a struggle. Or it may even feels like it’s a sales marathon but without a finish line. Once you reach one target, there is another one, and another one and it just keeps going on and on and on. If you work in sales, you know what I’m talking about. You are like a dog a bone. When things are great, it’s uplifting and motivating but when you struggle, when your team is under a lot of pressure  and underperforming, what do you do? If you are a sales manager, you’ve probably tried some traditional training, or team activity or incentives or carrot & stick approach but it probably didn’t work. Why? Because these are all external factors that has little or no effect on our self-motivation. John Whitmore, the father of performance coaching, once said – ‘I perform better when I want to than when I have to. I have to for you but I want to for me. Self-motivation is a matter of choice’. So how do you get you or your team to want to for ‘me or them’ to smash those targets and go an extra mile? What is the solution here? If you are wondering about it, keep on reading.

The answer is – sales coaching. So what does sales coaching entail and why is it highly effective?

Sales coaching is the new most effective alternative to sales management. Sales coaching focuses on sales effectiveness. In my opinion, sales performance coaching helps a coachee (you) define and set clear line of sight between sales goals and sales actions that result in desired business outcomes as well as boosting intrinsic motivation – I want to for me feeling I’ve mentioned earlier on. Sales coaching is the best known productivity investment to improve sales executives’ performance. It works, it’s delivering results from first session and also promotes accountability for actions. It’s a win-win.

According to the International Coach Federation, on average a company can expect a return of 7 times the initial investment in coaching. Good news is with sales coaching ROI can be even higher. One thing to be mindful of here –  although sales coaching often focuses on immediate sales effectiveness and it delivers great results, it is not magic though –  it’s important to remember that change does not happen overnight, it is a long process that requires a lot of hard work, persistence and determination. Success takes effort and development over the long haul.

When it comes to coaching, be it business, performance or sales, there is no ‘one fits all’ approach. From my experience, sales talent is developed in a field mainly through ‘on the job’ skills developments, different experiences, mentoring (if you are lucky to have a mentor) and coaching of course. Unfortunately, most training efforts fail to reach their objectives, in large part because of the absence of any kind of reinforcement or coaching. When managers reach certain level, traditional good old training is not effective anymore and any further professional development and personal growth agenda has to be reached through realising and reflecting on individual challenges and needs. According to some research, if there was no coaching or reinforcement activity including in a traditional training approach, there was a drop-off of 87% of the knowledge acquired.  So it is no surprise that sales coaching is becoming new flavour of sales management.

In my opinion, the future of management is coaching.

From my experience in sales (7yr+) and as a sales performance coach, here are 5 keys as to why sales coaching is so effective and successful:

  1. Goal-focused: Coaching is a goal-focused activity and every session starts with you setting a goal. Goals are internal representations of desired states or outcomes. Goal theory suggests that people will work harder and use more resources when the goal is harder to achieve and the harder the goal the higher the level of performance. Goal setting has been shown to improve performance in 90% of the relevant studies. Studies have also found that developing goals helps a person to enhance motivation  and remain focused on tasks or particular issues that need addressing both personal and/or work-related. The development of goals is an important aspect of overall coaching, time and life self-management.  You can read more about performance goals here or SMART goal setting framework here.
  2. Action-oriented: Coaching is aimed at actions. You don’t dwell on your mistakes, you learn from it and move on. If you talk about the problem, you become an expert of that problem but it doesn’t help you solve the challenge. After you set a goal, you develop an action plan that you execute. That’s why coaching is so effective even after the first session. You come out of it with an action plan ready and raring to go.
  3. Solution-focused: Coaching is a solution focused process that has 3 key characteristics:
    • It is outcome-oriented and competence based. E.g. ‘What are you going to do about it?’.
    • Fits well with the future-focused, goal-oriented coaching spirit of ‘here and now’.
    • Focuses on your skills, strengths, knowledge, resources, personal qualities and experience. It’s a skills development process.
  4. Motivation: Self-motivation is intrinsic, which mean it is within you. Self-motivation is the ability to energise, direct and sustain your goal-related behaviour whether or not you have the support and encouragement of others.  Lasting and meaningful change can only occur when you are intrinsically motivated. That is proven fact. Motivation to change is being ready, willing and able. Setting clear, defined goals and devising a plan is a motivating process. An experienced coach would also aim to tap into your inner resources and boost your self-efficacy, your belief in your abilities. It’s  win-win, isn’t it?
  5. Promoted executive presence or gravitas: In a nutshell, the word gravitas is an expressive term for dignity and strength of character, however in a modern-day the meaning of gravitas has been extended significantly and can imply the ability to communicate and collaborate effectively, network, influence others and develop meaningful, lasting relationships be it socially or professionally. People with gravitas manage and lead teams better, present and connect better which translates to winning more business, being successful in all areas of life. Three pillars or 3 C’s of executive presence are – Courage (how we are seen in action), Communication (how we are seen communicating) and Composure (our appearance). We live in a very competitive world and I strongly believe that people who know how to tap into this quality and develop their gravitas, can achieve higher levels of life satisfaction and self-actualisation.

As you can see, the benefits of sales coaching are outstanding and this is real game changer. Choose your coach wisely, strive for excellence and go get it!

If you have any questions or you would like to discuss sales coaching or training with me, please feel free to email me on hello@empoweredcoaching.pro and I would be happy to help.

Anastasia Antonova

Sales Performance Coach




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Benefits of Business Coaching: Why investing in yourself is the next big thing?

What is business coaching?
Benefits of business coaching
How to find the right business coach for you

Business Coaching by Empowered Coaching
Business Coaching by Empowered Coaching

What is business coaching? What are the benefits of business coaching?
How to find the right business coach for you?

What is business coaching and how it may benefit you? Do you want to lead by example and create positive influence? Do you want to dial up your game? We you hear these questions and it makes you wonder how can you accomplish these wonderful things? How can you boost motivation when you feel stuck and as a result miss out on some opportunities that are good for your business / work  / career? How can you get rid of self-doubting beliefs that block you from approaching a lucrative new client or ask for promotion? How can you improve certain skills that would enhance your performance such as communication skills and assertion?

When you reach certain level within your career, old fashioned training would not always work as you need an individual approach to tackle one challenge at a time at your own pace and learning style, at your own priority level. This is the most effective way to enhance personal development and achieve desired results.

So what is the solution here? Get yourself a business coach.

Coaching aims to bring the best in people in order to help them facilitate change in their lives and achieved preferred outcome. Building awareness and responsibility is the essence of good coaching. Business coaching is all over the above but set within a business environment.  Business coaching in organisations is becoming more popular as companies realise that they can improve both the performance and motivation of their employees through coaching. Or you can hire a business coach yourself.

Coaching unlocks a person’s potential and maximises their performance as well as helping people learn rather than teaching them. This is called guided discovery.

The essence of coaching can be defined as follows:

  • To help a coachee change in the way they wish and helping them go in the direction they want to go.
  • Coaching supports a person at every level in becoming who they want to be.
  • Coaching builds awareness empowers choice and leads to change

According to the Association Resources Centre and PWC survey, coachees who had business coaching reported improvements in the following areas:

  • Self-confidence – 80%
  • Communication skills – 72%
  • Interpersonal skills – 71%
  • Work performance – 70%
  • Relationship – 73%
  • Work/life balance – 63%

Business coaching: Feel Empowered. Achieve goals. Dial up your game.

Things to look out for when you are looking for a coach that are worth highlighting:

  • Education / Training – where have they completed their coaching training? Is the course accredited by the Association of Coaching UK / International Coach Federation or other reputable institution? Coaching is not regulated in the UK so unfortunately there are a lot of people who call themselves a coach but have no valid training or qualifications to support this claim. Be mindful and always check for relevant qualifications.
  • Coaching experience – how long have they been practicing coaching? Not NLP, not consulting, not training but pure coaching? Even though some coaches use NLP techniques such as anchoring, in essence NLP and coaching are two very different things. Likewise, if someone has tons of training / consulting experience but little coaching experience, this may affect their coaching style as they may be too direct and be in ‘consulting’ mode giving out suggestions or advice.  Coaching promotes facilitative style and this mean a coach adapts his/her style to reflect your style / coaching purpose / etc. This is called being a natural chameleon and it only comes with coaching practice and appropriate training/ supervision. We don’t give advice in coaching or tell you what to do, the whole point here that you come to your own conclusions. Guided discovery all the way.
  • Personal development – continued professional development is key in coaching as it is fairly new discipline and new techniques / approaches are emerging all the time. You have to be ahead of the game yourself to be able to drive your coachees to excel.
  • Coach’s expertise vs your purpose – What sort of skill set do they bring into coaching? What is their previous experience?  My advice – look for a business / executive coach who has an expertise or previous experience in your area. This is called niche or specialist coaching. This may be a more expensive option but it’s well worth it. A coach that works in a niche area would have a deeper understanding of the challenges you face in this particular field. If you want to go for a massage, you choose a particular type based on your needs. If you want to relax, you go for a relaxation aromatherapy type not a deep tissue sports one, right? Same rule applies to coaching. Identify the purpose of your coaching be it skills development such as communication / presentation skills / assertion, or sales performance enhancement or stress management, research who’s best within this areas and arrange an initial chat. For example, I have over 12 years of hospitality experience, 7 of which in corporate sales and events. This is my niche and expertise.
  • Initial free session and chemistry – Most coaches would offer free no obligation 20-30 minutes sessions so you can answer any questions, discuss the purpose of coaching and then you can decide whether you wish to go ahead with this coach. You need to find your person otherwise it won’t work. If you are not completely sure about the process or techniques they use or their coaching style, if you feel like you didn’t click – you need someone else. It doesn’t mean they are bad, it just simply means you need a coach with different skill set and approach. If you work in fast paced environment such as sale, you need someone with no-nonsense approach. Rainbows and unicorns won’t work here. Don’t be afraid to say this or don’t feel bad about it either. You need to put your needs here first and this is not being selfish, I call it enlightened self-interest. It’s your goal and you are your own best expert. If there is no coaching chemistry in the process, if you didn’t fully connect, look for a new coach.
  • Accreditation and membership – the main coaching body in the UK is the Association for Coaching. Accreditation and membership ensure a coach has a certain level of training, experience and supervision as well as continued  professional development. This also means a coach follows a code of professional ethics.

Professional coaching brings many wonderful benefits: fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhanced decision-making skills, greater interpersonal effectiveness, and increased confidence. And, the list does not end there. Those who undertake coaching also can expect appreciable improvement in productivity, satisfaction with life and work, and the attainment of relevant goals.  Overall coaching can focus on any aspect of a person’s life in assisting personal growth on all fronts.

If you have any questions about how business coaching can benefit you or your company, please feel free to email me direct and I’d be happy to help. My email is hello@empoweredcoaching.pro



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